...is that nobody sees it. And, humans are prone to discount what they can't see.
So last night I was standing by this woman I've known for years (not known well, but known consistently as our daughters have danced together since they were four). She knows about my back pain, and has recently shown an interest as she's had back pain for a couple of weeks (it's improving).
So she asks me if I've tried pain management mind techniques, etc. (Dude, I've tried it all.) I mentioned I'm not a huge believer in it. She said, WHY? I'm SUCH a believer in the mind-body connection...it's soooo valuable... If one can just adjust their mind...blah blah blah... I've had the lecture before. And while it's hurtful (and ignorant), I've learned just to shut up. Trying to justify and/or explain myself does no good; it just digs a bigger chasm between me and whomever is preaching to me. They don't understand. They apparently can't understand: the healthy rarely can.
But, this one had a better conversation ender than most of this type. While I stood there stoically, watching our kids finish up their class, she added, Then again, if somebody said that to me two weeks ago when I was REALLY hurting, I would have wanted to sock them. I smiled benignly at her and said, That's why my arms are crossed.
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